Approaching dating in the vanilla world comes with a set of unspoken rules. Going up to someone and simply telling them exactly you’re looking for in a relationship isn’t going to go down well. It’s going to make you come across as forward, selfish, and perhaps a little needy.

However, this is what makes BDSM dating such a unique experience. Unlike the vanilla world, the needs of the two parties are already in place for the other person to see. A submissive dater will be looking for a dominant, and vice versa. This is obvious from the get go.

There are no secrets, no game playing, and no need to silently vet a person to see if you’re compatible with each other.

A BDSM relationship is more intimate

Relationships in the BDSM world are based entirely around the trust between two people. A submissive person will bare everything for their dominant partner, and likewise, the dominant holds the key to the submissive’s happiness.

When all BDSM play is said and done, the relationship which comes as a result of this unique intimacy seeps out into everyday life. Even when you’re not experimenting in the confines of your bedroom, there exists a connection between you both which the vanilla world is unable to offer.

There is a constant sense of unconditional trust

When it comes to a BDSM relationship, there is an incredible amount of trust placed amongst both parties. The dominant must be sure to handle his submissive with as much care as possible in order to stretch them to their limits, but not cross boundaries. This is a great amount of power to hold, and one which no true dominant would ever abuse.

Therefore, this instills a sense of trust across all aspects of the relationship, not just your experimental side. In the vanilla world, there is an endless sense of worry that one day, your partner may find someone more attractive and end the relationship without hesitation. In the BDSM dating scene, there is very little chance of this happening because relationships aren’t built around attraction, they’re built around trust, intimacy and togetherness.

Communication is key

All relationships need communication in order to thrive, and this is something which the vanilla world is sorely lacking in. So often there are couples who live entirely separate lives, rarely taking the time to spend time together between work, friends and other responsibilities.

BDSM relationships are based around effective communication. Without it, a dominant or submissive wouldn’t know where the boundaries are.

Relationships fail. This is a normal part of life. The reason for their failure may lie in a multitude of reasons; lack of trust, lack of communication, waning attraction, a depleted sex life, etc. However, BDSM dating addresses the conditions which many relationships fail from and serves to enhance these aspects of the relationship, allowing the relationship to thrive to its maximum levels. This is why BDSM dating is so much more enjoyable than vanilla dating.

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